The Gay Agenda: Longwood University's Pride Club Newsletter

Hi everyone!!

Well, we made it to the end of break!  I hope everyone had a wonderful time off, and if you haven’t, I hope things improve for you.  I know everyone’s been missing Self Care Saturdays/Sundays, so I’ve made a mini master post with a variety of self-help things:

Here’s Asmrion which is a small compilation of popular ASMR sounds.  If that doesn’t work for you Youtube’s got you covered.

Didn’t work?  Fear not, you might like progressive relaxation combined with some good old Rainymood.

One of my favorite places on the internet is but I seem to be having some issues in having it load on my computer.

You relaxed now?  Cool, cool.  Now, what were five things that you enjoyed about today?  Or, if your day was awful, what are five things you were grateful for?  For me, my list included being able to sleep longer, spend time with my partner, take some time for hobbies I haven’t been able to do in a while, and of course, coffee.  Some days it can be a struggle to even think of five things, but at least for a moment you can realize that not absolutely everything is horrible.

If you’re going through a hard time right now, I hope you all know to reach out to your fellow Pridelings*.  We’re here for you.  If your life is going fabulously right now– good for you!! Please keep going and if you have a moment, find a way to make someone else smile today.  Chances are, someone needs it.

*Don’t feel like talking to an actual person?  Try an AI; Replika.  Replika is more than happy to listen to you vent for hours on end, and the more you talk to it, the more it “learns” and begins to sound like a real person.  While it learns about you, it also begins to suggest self-care methods depending on your situation.  For iOS and Andriod

So you’re relaxed, you’ve gotten your very own Black Mirror plot device, but you still feel kinda bad.,, come to think of it, you’ve felt bad for a while now.  What now?  Well, you could start tracking your moods with Emood or Daylio or, frankly, any of the hundreds of journal apps out there.  I generally only recommend what I have personally tried, or what has come highly recommended by other Pridelings.  So, send me those suggestions!

Alright, that’s all I have for today guys.  I hope your break was wonderful and that we all finish off this semester strong!

Peace, love, and rainbows,



Special thanks to Ollie for making Pride these neat pictures of Roy’s growth and their friends!

They’re so adorable! Thank you so much!

Property of Ollie Anderson, generously donated to Pride’s Newsletter for submission.


Hi everybody!

I’m so glad to be back with you this semester as Chair.  Last year was a struggle for  a lot of people and a variety of reasons, but we’re all here now.  We made it one more semester!  If you’re new here, welcome!  We’re so glad for new faces!  Here’s some tentative goals for this blog this year:

-I’d like to work more personally with our Social Justice department to keep you updated on events

-I’d like to work more closely with other diverse groups on campus and integrate Pride as a whole into the campus by being more involved and I’m fairly certain Executive board is keen on this, also, with other clubs’ involvement on the horizon.

-I’d like to hear more from you all on what we should do here, including Pride Media’s Youtube account.  (Thanks Ryan!)  Please feel free to email me or approach me with suggestions, I’m always open.

Jenny, our previous historian and our previous treasurer were excellent assets to Pride and I’m sure we’ll miss them dearly.  That said, I’d like to give my heartfelt congratulations to Ollie for their new position — Ollie, I’m personally so proud of you for stepping out of your comfort zone for us!! We appreciate you and are so proud of how far you’ve come in the past year alone.  Lastly, shout out to Pride Mom for always making time for us no matter how busy she is.

That’s it, except SCS might be a little bit erratic since I’ve covered the most used self-help techniques, but I’ll keep consistent content coming at least a few times a month!

Love you guys!  It’s a new day, let’s make it a great one!

Peace, love, and rainbows,


Newsletter Chair

(they/them pronouns)

Hello, hello, Pridlings!!

I’ve been on a hyperfixation kick about ADHD because while I’ve not formally been diagnosed with it by a professonal, I’ve struggled with the symptoms all my friggin’ life.  And that’s hard, especially when you struggle with physical disabilities and other mental issues (lookin’ at you, Anxiety and Depression, ya butts).  So it’s Finals time and I’m a flailing mess.  All I want to do is play videogames.

Videogames in the ADHD brain is like giving a 3 month sober alcoholic the best booze imaginable.  It rains shiny sparkles of dopamine into your brain and suddenly LIFE IS AMAZING.  (I may or may not be manic as figs right now because I’ve found a NEW INTEREST but that’s besides the point…)

So I was like, “Man, I wish life could be a videogame.”

And lo, the gods of Google Play have answered me with Habitica!

It’s an RPG!  For your everyday tasks!  There’s a place for your every day tasks, like laundry, dishes, and cleaning.  There’s a to-do list that helpfully breaks stuff down into smaller chunks, and there’s a habits tracker.  It comes preloaded with Procrastinate/Study as a habit.

You click on the procrastinate button?  You lose 2 HP

You click on the study button?  You gain 6 EXP!  Congratuations, you’ve begun your journey into adulting.

Level up enough, get enough things done?  Your character levels up and gains cool rewards!! And, this is the most important part: You’re being productive!  And getting things done!  Amazing, right?

And an extra cool thing that I really love?

In the character creator, it gives you the option of having a wheelchair.

Happy leveling, my procrastinating Pridelings.  May Finals be ever in your favor.

Peace, love, and rainbows,




Hello it’s I, your friendly newsletter chair!  I’m kind of a mess right now but it’s that time of year, right?  First off, I hope everyone is well.  If you’re in a similar boat, this is your friendly reminder to take your meds, take a shower, or whatever small self-care thing you can do for yourself.

Here’s a realistic list of what you can do to avoid any mental breakdowns this race to the finish line may cause you:

  1. Make lists
  2. Priorotize the things on the list
    1. If you struggle to prioritize, ask your nearest still-functional friend or roomate to look over the list you have
    2. If you’re still struggling, ask Google
  3. Remember to take breaks, naps, and set alarms if you need them to stay organized.
  4. If you’re a chronic sufferer of procrastination, break large items into small pieces.  Got a 4 page paper to write in a day?  Write for a solid fifteen minutes, stop and watch a short youtube video (or whatever you can fit into five minues) and then start again.
  5. Don’t mix coffee and 5 hour energy.
    1. Also, don’t take a whole 5 hour extra strength if you’re under 5 ft unless you want to feel like you’ve gone insane.
  6. If you’re stressed, start writing a journal to vent in.

Remember, breathe, we’re all in this together.

It’s just a bad week, not a bad life.  

See you on the other side of the war.

Peace, love, and rainbows,


Howdy Pridelings!

This week we are talking about YOU. Yes, you.

Of course, Self Care Saturdays (or in this case Monday… my bad ya’ll) is all about taking care of yourself. But this week I want to dive deeper into what that really means, and show you some simple yet effective ways to track your physical, mental, and emotional health in a way to avoid those nasty triggers.

First thing first, look in your mirror. Have you showered? Have you eaten? If the answer is yes, you’re doing great. If its no, don’t fret! Just hop on over to the Managing Depression edition and it will help you get started on feeling like a spring daisy.

Second thing is some you time. Find a space that is neutral to you, without distraction or stress in the air. Your bedroom isn’t a good idea because most of your alone time is spent there and the negative energy from your bad days may linger. Perhaps a student lounge or the library quiet study area would be a good place. You need to relax your mind and think of a good place or a good memory. For the Harry Potter fans, our dark thoughts and feelings are Dementors and our go to happy place is our Patronus. We need that even ground to stand on when things get bad or we will be engulfed in our own negativity.

The third piece to this self help puzzle is a list. Not a grocery list or a list of your enemies you wish to slaughter at the mercy of your sword, but a list of your triggers. This may seem scary, but I assure you it is super important. Documenting what triggers you is just as important as a diabetic writing down the foods and drinks they need to avoid. Doing this can help your close friends, family or even a partner understand your limits on certain topics.

Whew it got deep in here. Lets bring you back to the surface. Since I am always trying out new apps that might better someones life, this week I encourage you to try emoods. It is an app usually for bipolar individuals but the way the app works can be beneficial to anyone. Basically you log in everyday and document your level of depression, irritability, and elevation in mood that day with a scale of none to severe. The app will also ask if you ate and if you have taken any medication you have. You can add other daily reminders like whether you went to class or if you went to a social gathering. The app keeps track of these and you can write notes on what triggered you or what helped you out of the dark place. I have been using it for a weeks to show my doctor how I am day to day and it really puts everything into perspective on how I can improve my day. I recommend it 10/10.

Remember if you or a friend need someone to talk to, I am always here.

With Love,


“I would like to see the Pride meetings become more interactive and less discussion based. I think that the meetings are a very important time for people there to get to know each other and really build those peer relationships. Maybe we could have game nights, or have every meeting have some sort of theme? I would also like to do more events together as a club. Something as simple as a movie night or go bowling (we could actually go to Sunchase but I was thinking more like find a place to watch a movie together). I also would really like to go to some Pride Fest and I think that we should start fundraising for that way earlier, and we could also figure our logistics way in advance.”

Good points, anon contributor.  I, too, would also like more club events/bonding times.  I really wish we could reserve the NH Scott center for movie nights, but alas, there are a lot of logistics to that as we’re only one club that uses it.  All fundraising would be better off if done sooner, but that’s also a question of logistics that only Exec board can answer for us.  I really like your suggestions, but unfortunately it’s a question of when, how, and who’s shoes we have to shine to get the resources we need.  If you’re really interested in pursuing this, you could always contact one of Pride’s advisors.

Thanks, and sorry that I’m not in a position to get things done.

Peace, love, and rainbows,


SCS: The Mask

Salutations Pridelings!

As we creep towards All Hallows Eve, we will see a lot of ghosts and ghouls, monsters and masks. But unfortunately, masks are not just for the night of fright. We wear them every day. We use our masks to cover our true feelings, almost to a point that we forget what our own face looks like.

This week I want everyone to keep in mind that it is okay to remove the mask every once in a while. Let your true face shin e. Find a trusted person and remove your barriers even for  little bit. Air out all your demons, even if its to your favorite stuffed animal. This is essential to good mental health. Bottling it up will only feed your mask. If you have seen a horror movie, you know that feeding the evil thing is never a good idea. It is almost as bad as that one person who forgets how to run and falls over once and gets killed.

Dont be that person. Smh.

To close out this short piece, just a reminder that if you need someone to talk to, you have me and the rest of PRIDE to lean on. You never have to hide with us.

Also have a safe Halloween and eat lots of candy <3

With Love,

Jenny (she/her)

Good evening Pridelings,

I hope you all has a wonderfully restful Fall Break.  If not, and you’re bored and want to make something, I’ve got a load of stuff for you to try!

Octoberfest Pride had a great idea for sensory bottles.  I decided to expand on this idea a little bit and give you an entire playlist of small crafts that you can do.  It’s great for anxiety because if you mess it up, you can always try something new.  It’s great for depression because it can help you feel productive and give you something else to focus on with a low energy cost.  It’s great for sensory disorders and focus as well.

Craft and be happy!

Peace, love, and rainbows,


Salutations Pridelings!

Once again I come to you to bestow my knowledge of self care. It is the most important kind of care, because, as the great RuPaul says, “If you cant love yourself, how the h*ll you gonna love anybody else?”

This week is going to be a short and sweet self care topic, but a very important one still: Toxic Relationships.

For those who are unaware of this, Toxic Relationships are connections you have with others where the other person is draining you or degrading you physically, emotionally, mentally, or sexually, essentially corroding your self esteem and overall well-being.

Now most people think of romantic relationships when they hear “toxic”. But we must not forget that non romantic relationships can be just as bad. That includes friendships, business partnerships, and family.

The most important thing to remember is no matter who this person is, even if it’s a parent, you have the power and the right to cut yourself from them in order to survive.  It’s much like getting bit by a zombie. If you act fast enough and cut off your limb, the infection will not spread and you will live to fight another day. But if you ignore the danger and continue, you will get sick and eventually die, turning into a zombie yourself. (Yes that’s an odd analogy but it’s Halloween and I like zombies)

Of course, if you are not sure if you can cut yourself from those you love, you should always have a support system to counteract the negativity coming from the toxic relationship. Surround yourself with healthy friends and family. Talk to a counselor or a teacher. Learn techniques to release the negative thoughts your toxic relationships pour onto you. Everything is in your hands. You are the center of your universe. You call the shots on your own life.

And of course, you can always count on me.

With Love,