Starting a whole new journey-Marriage
It is common that after getting an education and having a good job, people start thinking about life ahead. The next thing that comes in the majority people’s mind is to get married and start a family. Then, living with your spouse and raising your children starts a whole new journey of one’s life. I was interested in a person during my college days to whom I was committed. Though the feeling between us was pure and mutual, still, we decided first to settle down our lives separately and think about ourselves. This decision was right at that time. We know each other for more than four years, and during this time, we had experienced both good and bad times. We also had experienced the excitement phase of love in which we shared strong feelings and emotions, and it became difficult for us to control ourselves. However, we both belong to families with high moral and ethical values who respect these boundaries; therefore; we decided to keep distant until we sort out things. Though we have different personalities and preferences which gave rise to conflicts, still we shared romantic attraction due to which despite many negative incidences, we never broke up. That is what I called the beauty of our relationship.
Soon after we graduated, we went to our home towns and started our respective jobs. We entered into a whole new race, and it became difficult for us to remain in contact, but still, we managed to stay in contact. Our parents new about us and so after making adjustments with our job, our parents engaged us. After about a year, finally, the time reached when got married. The marriage was attended by our close family members and friends. Marriage is such a special occasion, and so it was for us. Getting married to a person who you know for many years and shares a romantic relationship is a blessing to you. Love makes a positive change in your personality and marriage changes your personality as well as life. We have started a whole new journey. It was like love is in the air. The newly married couples enjoy this honeymoon period and explored each other in a whole new way. Couples not only share a romantic bond but also explores sexual compatibility. https://www.glamour.com/story/what-really-changes-when-you-get-married
Change in personality
Marriage is not that simple as it seems to be. Knowing each other or sharing a romantic bond with the person is a different thing, and living with that person is a different thing. The couple is not sharing their lives, but their families, house, and other stuff that is not a piece of cake. Many things come in between. We made some simple rules in our lives that whenever the problem comes and whatever is it, we will never hide anything from each other. We will discuss it to sort it out. It will strengthen the bond of trust between us. Marriage does bring change in one’s personality. Things that one used to consider just from own perspective, now think for both beings. Each partner is concerned about the other person’s comfort zone. I, too, have witnessed this change in me and my husband. The big five traits consisting of openness, extraversion, conscientiousness, agreeableness, and neuroticism were somewhat changed not only in me but min my husband also. If one of us is spot exposed to or comfortable in one thing that he will at least try for the other person. Such activities increase the exposure of couple and increase their acceptance of new changes that improve the interpersonal functioning. Also, having a supporting and loving partner, once the level of agreeableness also increases and the level of neuroticism decreases that predicts the happiness and long-term stability of a relationship.
Another major and good change in a married couple’s life is becoming parents. Though every person has his own experience and feelings which might get differ from the other. For some mothers and fathers, it was a positive experience while some are confused and irritated about what to feel and what to not. They are unable to handle the new change that had come into their life during pregnancy and after the birth of the child. However, for us, it was a priceless moment. I know this would sound cheesy, but Harry and I already decided the names of our kids even before our marriage. Luckily, we had twins, a girl, and a boy. Having little souls in our hands and feeling them was a whole new experience for us. Now, Harry and I are at a stage where we no longer think about ourselves, but we think about the lives of our kids and how could we make it better for them.
The blog demonstrated the understanding of romantic relationships and the journey that starts after marriage. There are different things that one has to experience in marriage, which sometimes becomes difficult to handle, but if there is a loving and caring spouse, then things become far better to handle. Also, stepping into a new stage of marriage becomes an easy process. The blog discusses the different feelings of individuals after becoming parents, which is good for some and irritable and confusing for some.
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