“Did you know that bullying isn’t just someone punching you in the face or a bully calling you a name that you don’t like? Bullying is a lot more than that. There are even different types of bullying” (Company, 2008). I love this quotation because I feel like it really expresses what bullying is, including all of the aspects of bullying that people might not be aware of.
Indirect bullying is when stories or rumors about a person are spread around and excluding others from the group. Indirect bullying does not physically hurt the person, but it can be very emotional for the victim. An example of indirect bullying can be if someone started a rumor that a boy liked playing with stuffed animals because they thought it would be funny. Some other examples of indirect bullying can be: destroying relationships and reputations, embarrassment, gossiping, graffiti, glares and dirty looks, and negative body language.
According to Beane, girls are more indirect with their bullying techniques, while boys are much more direct and physical with their bullying. Girls are usually more hurtful with words and can be very sneaky and nasty. Females also tend to inflict pain more emotionally and psychologically than boys do (2012).
Usually these verbal attacks or alienations will occur when there are no adults present in the situation. It is much easier for a bully to get away with something if the adult doesn’t see or hear anything going on. Indirect bullying is much harder to identify, since there is no physical damage done, but should not be taken any less seriously than direct bullying.
Indirect bullying goes along with verbal bullying, which I posted about last week. Indirect bullying can be verbal, but it doesn’t have to be. Like I said before, indirect bullying can be destroying relations, embarrassment, gossiping, graffiti, glares and dirty looks, as well as negative body language. Indirect bullying can happen without anyone speaking a word.
Bullying is usually kept a secret because the victim can sometimes feel ashamed or too embarrassed to tell an adult. Victims can feel left out or that nobody likes them. Some people who are victims of bullying don’t want to worry their parents or have anyone get involved with the situation.
Indirect bullying is one of the many different types of bullying I will be discussing throughout my blogs. It is important for people to be aware of the different types of bullying, even the less obvious ones.
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Beane, A. L. (2012, 02 14). Bully free program. Retrieved from http://bullyfree.com/free-resources/facts-about-bullying
Company, O. (2008). Stop bullying. Retrieved from http://library.thinkquest.org/07aug/00117/typesbullying.html